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Ángel L.B.wrote:
Hola.Un saludo desde España.Islas Canarias...Ángel
July 23
Solid Gamerwrote:
How do you do Miss Shari! Your space see very beautiful. I am impressed! Have a nice day!
July 6
. Justinwrote:
Nice photos,u must have enjoyed a happy tour. "No one realizes how beautiful it is to travel until he comes home and rests his head on his old, familiar pillow." Munnn,,Don Lin was really a great thinker and skilled english writer.i thought his classic Moment in Peking is worth reading. Traveling,i really like.Maybe ,someday,u can travel to China,enjoying the classical beauty. i gonna to Canada,i think , it`s the luck,take me to ur nice blog.
June 12
Nathaliewrote:
Hello!
Nice page and blog.
Take care, have a great day!
June 5
maan morrawrote:
wow thats pretty cool that ur a canadain who lives in japan and a teacher thats awesome. I live in canda still lol
May 5
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October 10 MovedAfter much thought, I have decided to move my blog. Why? Mostly because I think the msn Live site is too busy. Plus, I'm too lazy to change the formatting and remove things. I prefer clean slates. They are so... clean. It's fun to dirty them up. Apparently, blogspot doesn't have a function where I can import my old blog posts. There are suggestions of cutting and pasting. This is where I use my favourite Japanese word - mendokusai. That means I can't be bothered. And I can't be bothered. Thus, new posts can be found at http://sharinakagawa.blogspot.com. I still need to think of a purpose for this blog. The old one was about being an expat in Japan. However, seeing as my person has been removed from Japan I can no longer blog about that. Well, I could, but that would be downright LIE! I was going to blog about my repatriating myself but eh, b-o-r-i-n-g. So, I'll think about it some more. I promise to try to be amusing. I think I'm pretty amusing but then again, I am the funniest person in the world - to myself. I'll stop babbling now. Perhaps I will even go and do some work. S. October 05 DescentAs a child I was the fancy girl. Apparently I loved dresses and abhorred getting them dirty. I say apparently because I have no recollection of this.
But then I got older. One day in grade 6 I came home and announced to my parents that “I had joined the basketball team”. Something sparked in my poor, lone man in the house, father’s eyes and poof, we were out on the local court. That day I ran many laps and learned how to play defense. I was not even allowed to touch a ball for weeks. Fundamentals you know. That sealed my fate for the next decade. I was the girl that wore a sports bra every day because they were more comfortable. I suppose the term tom-boy applies here but really, I was just lazy. Perhaps boys in this day and age are bombarded with the ideas of metrosexuality and thus have as much grooming/dressing issues as us girls do, but in my teenage years, dressing like guys was the easier route. About 8 years ago, I got a job at a bag store. The constant bombardment of purses got to me. Sure, I made fun of the ladies whose purses and shoes just “had to match”. You would too if you had heard the words they used. Because the world does hang in the balance if you don’t find an off-white purse to match those off-white pumps that you are lugging around from store to store. Regardless of what I thought of these ladies, I soon found myself with a healthy collection of purses. I figured that was it. Everyone needs a functional bag right? If it just happens to be the cutest thing imaginable is just a bonus. Then I got a job at a jewelry store. I have always worn necklaces but they were a mere after thought. But after 10 months of trying on all the jewelry (especially the ten thousand dollar diamond, whoo baby!) I was converted. Rings and necklaces and bracelets, oh my! I drew the line at earrings. I had to maintain my dignity somehow. Two and half years in a different country can get to you. I arrived in Japan and immediately started in on my favourite sport – Japanese accessories. Jewelry? Strange. Haircuts? Feathered disasters. Shoes and their ability to walk in them? Can I even describe the pigeon toed shuffle in heels that the Japanese women have perfected? However, attitudes can change. Somewhere along the line I developed an obsession with earrings. Big ones. I got a Japanese haircut. But the day I knew I HAD to leave was the one when I started to like the shoes there. So I came home and hoped for normalcy to kick in. But all I can think about is a pair of red patent mary jane pumps at the Bay. Japan may have finally done the impossible and made a girl out of me. Working in the corporate world may do the worst and make me a *insert shudder* fancy girl. S. September 27 Shari's Guide to Repatriating Oneself.Today marks 2 months since I left Japan and about a month and a half back in Japan. I'm starting to notice myself getting back to normal. Thus, some thoughts on the whole I left but now I'm back again and going to moan about it phenomenom.
1. Don't Expect Anyone to Get It.
Don't. They may pretend to get it or they may blatantly change the subject. But unless they have been an ex-pat themselves, no one is going to understand the feelings that you are going through. To them, it is the nice vacation that you were on. Sure, a two and a half year vacation. In their eyes, it is a trip. In yours... most likely it was a life changing experience that has left you much different than you left. At least I hope so. Why else would you live in another country? So suck it up buttercup, and learn to not talk about it so much. Learn to keep those stories inside for you and you alone, because quite frankly, even if they do care, they won't get what you are going on about. You know when friends go on vacation and come back with all these stories that you really couldn't care less about. Well, yours are worse because at least they had the excitement of a new place.
2. Stop Comparing Countries. There Really Isn't A Point.
Canada and Japan are never going to be the same. And I wouldn't want them to be. If they were, it would be like I had moved to the States (gawd forbid!). And really, Canada does not need to be introduced to the kancho. Likewise, the Japanese don't need poutine. Just saying.
3. Stop Idealizing the Other Country.
It's easy to remember everything lovely about the other country. It's easy to think that your life was perfect back there. But seriously, it wasn't all peaches. How about the times when you wanted to shove your pen up the lady at the bank/postoffice/phone company's nose because she made you fill out the form a million times because she didn't like the way you wrote your name. Oh no. All in capitals. Last name first. You forgot your middle names. Or how about the times you seriously wanted to scream because you couldn't stand hearing the words kawai and sugoi one more time. Or how even a trip to the post office could be a huge ordeal. Sure, life was good there but maybe the bad times are just glossed over by the alcohol induced fog you survived in the last few weeks.
4. Stop Staring at the Exchange Students
Yes, you really want to hear Japanese. But being creepy and staring at the exchange students is not helping. First off, they may not be Japanese. Second, you're being creepy. Stop it.
5. Remember All Those Skills You Learned and Put Them To Good Use
Remember learning how to live by yourself and to survive all those quiet times by yourself? Remember going days without speaking to anyone because no one around you spoke English? Remember making your own entertainment? Remember going out and making friends on your own because there was no one else to rely on? Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You're not the person who went to Japan, thank gawd. Miss Completely Timid is gone and even she managed to live in a foreign country by herself. Miss New Found Confidence should be able to survive on the island she grew up on.
It's taking time but I'll survive. I always do.
S. September 18 Best FriendsI remember being little and having a best friend. One. That's it. Best Friends Forever and all that gushy girliness. Sure, you had other friends but they floated in planetary orbit around your and your BFF while you worshipped at the altar of the perfect relationship. The best friend could change at any given moment because we were girls and fickle, but the constant of the best friend was always there. I suppose that I carried this image through to my adulthood. We should all have one best friend. Finite.
It's actually a very depressing thought.
In my quasi adulthood (I refuse to consider myself an adult just yet) I just couldn't understand why I could never get that "best friend" quality anymore.
I think perhaps in my old age now I have finally gotten it. The term shouldn't be best friend. It should be best friend for .... And I now realize that I have too many best friends that I just don't know what to do with myself.
How about the best friend for always making you smile over the little things? The one who writes "Hugs" on your "Things I Need List" and makes sure she gives you a big one when you leave.
How about the best friend for taking your intellect seriously and will sit in a pub for hours discussing politics? The one who will send you links to things that he thinks you will enjoy or find interesting?
How about the best friend for just about anything because her personality and likes and dislikes are so close to yours (and birthday is 2 days earlier than yours) that she instinctively knows that when she has an extra hockey ticket that you will be the person sitting next to her?
How about the best friend for taking the time to listen to your fears and the one who threatens to come kick your ass if you wallow in those fears? The one who will act out video games just for your enjoyment?
How about the best friend for talking about boys and all such related things for hours at a time in a giggly tone and making you laugh at the strangeness of the opposite sex?
How about the best friend for letting you bitch across about your job and for making you feel like you aren't suffering alone? The one for keeping you sane for a whole year when the stress was getting to you.
How about the best friend for making you feel special because everytime you see her you get a flying hug?
How about the best friend for making you laugh at the antics of celebrities and friends alike even though you don't indulge normally in gossip?
How about the best friend for matching you drink for drink and letting you crash at her place when you've missed the train again?
How about the best friend for taking the time to talk to you on msn each and every time she logs on, even if it's only for a couple of minutes?
How about the best friend for hanging out with on her suggestion, even when she has to drive 2 hours to do it? And then calls you the minute she gets home. The one who understands your wanderlust because she suffers from the same gypsy tendencies as you do?
How about the best friend for telling you to get your head out of your ass when you are wallowing in self pity and then offers to take you dancing? The one who will answer your sassy black lady comment with one of his own even though neither of you is black and one is male.
How about the best friend for understanding where you are coming from because she comes from the same parents?
Sometimes I need a good kick in the ass. I feel alone when I really should feel blessed. I've been thinking I need a best friend like I did when I was a kid. I'm not a kid. My friendships aren't defined on how well someone plays house. And thank gawd for that, seeing as those dolls with the blinking eyes really creep me out.
S.
September 12 Lacking blog directionIt seems that ever since I have come home, I have nothing to blog about. Nothing amusing has happened to me lately.
I suppose I could blog about work. And how boring it is. And how I will sit and stare and the computer and pretend to move my fingers over the keys. You know. To look like I'm working.
Nah.
I'm thinking of taking a french class, maybe a belly dance class and if I can find one, join a volleyball league. I could blog about those.
We'll see if I actually get around to any of that.
Directionless blog, directionless life. Melancholy night. Shebert time. Woot~!
S. September 06 Happy Birthday To MeTomorrow is my birthday. My 27th birthday. I'm not entirely sure what to make of that. Celebrate or moan about getting older.
It seems so cliched to moan.
When I was younger, I never thought much about my 20's. Never thought about what I would be doing or what I would be like. I hear about classmates from high school who are married, or have kids or are doing crazy things. I'm not jealous (kids... ick), but makes me wonder about the other paths I could have taken.
But regret? Never.
Typically on my birthday I like to make plans. But I have none. I have had vague thoughts running through my head. Go back and become a teacher. Do ESL. Go to Africa. Stay here and do the normal person thing. But nothing is sticking. Guess we'll just have to see.
Happy Birthday me. Another year. Perhaps this one we can do the wiser thing.
S. September 04 Oh my...This morning I woke up in a start. Oh shit. It's 10:32. And I have to work at 11:00 and it's my first day.
But no. I just clearly can't read clocks at that time in the morning.
Work was fine. Basically got shown around the office, filled out some paperwork, etc. Stephen showed me how to do the basic processing. It seems easy enough. Then, after being there two and a half hours, I was sent home. Yeah. Ok. Sure. I'll go shopping instead. Is this how the job is going to be? Cuz I ain't going to complain.
Good start. Good start.
Jason called this afternoon and we took his puppy out for a walk. Bishop was super excited and bounding around. Cute. I hate dogs but I like taking them for walks. Go figure. Or maybe it's just nice to be with a dog that listens when it is told to sit and isn't wearing barretts in it's ears.
Just as we were heading back to my place we came across this nice lady and her old golden retriever. Bishop loves retrievers, so we stopped to say hello. The lady was chatty and Jason has always been chatty, so they ended up talking about the dog and then about the Vogue apartments where Jason lives.
Jason: yeah, that area isn't the greatest.
Lady: I was thinking of buying in that building but I didn't feel safe walking my dog around there. You two are a couple, so you wouldn't have that problem.
Jason and I just smiled at each other. After 15 years of friendship, it is the first time we ever were mistaken for a couple. Maybe it's the ring from Jason's boyfriend that marks their engagement that gave her that idea. Just what I need... a gay boyfriend and a Pomeranian dog.
This is going to ruin my "lone wolf" persona that I got going on. My other gay friend Ben labelled me that.
Lone wolf. Or maybe just hag, seeing as my boys are all gay.
Insert sigh here.
S. August 30 Badda-bing, Badda-bombAnd just like that, I am no longer unemployed or homeless. Not bad for being back in the country for 2 weeks.
Mostly it was Jason. Best friends who are motivated are good things. Even if you don't really want a job they push for you to work at their work.
It's good.
So, starting on Tuesday I will be working at Custom House doing Payments Processing. I will be handling the exotic currency accounts. That means I will not know about the yen or euro but rather the current exchange rate of the Fiji dollar or the Czech crown. I've never in my life particularly wanted to work with money. Guess that's what happens when your mother has worked at credit unions your whole life. The position is only for 6 months but Jason says that they never are... everyone ends up full time. But in 6 months, well... Lindsay might be driving across North America.
Road Trip anyone?
The place I'm taking is tiny. Maybe even smaller than the apartment I lived in Japan. It has a shared bathroom. But... it's 385 dollars a month! 385!! That is ridiculously cheap in Victoria and even cheaper considering it's about 5 minutes from downtown and about 15 from where I'm going to work.
I'm heading down to Vic this weekend for Jason and Stephen's engagement party and to move in. Things are moving fast. Everyone I know seems to be settling into the adult thing. I just want to be a kid. Maybe there is something wrong with me. When I was leaving Japan I had this grand plan of coming home and becoming an adult. But now... it just doesn't seem like that much fun.
Guess I'm never going to be content.
S. August 26 SpinningI feel like I'm spinning. Spinning. In control. Out of control. I'm not sure. But spinning.
Somethings are happening and I feel like I have no control at all. It will all work out in the end, or I will just get used to things. It's funny how life can tilt the axis sometimes.
So instead of thinking about things I can, or perhaps can't control, I figure tonight I will think about things that have been. Things that make me smile. Things about Japan. I'm sure I'm being annoying to my friends talking about Japan and I am trying to limit the amount that I talk about it, but it is all I knew for the last few years. Before I left Japan, Laura asked me what my favourite memory was. How can you classify your absolute favourite when it was a wonderful experience? You don't. But here are somethings that made me smile.
1) Two months in, I asked during the short conversation portion of class to a little girl "what is your favourite animal?" She responded matter-of-factly "I like head." She better not travel abroad if that is going to be her answer to things.
2)The lady at Ito's grocery shop. I've never seen anyone put so much pure joy into a job. She actually seemed to enjoy her job, and loved each and every person who would go through her til. I used to wait in line just so I could go through her til.
3) Me and my friends went to the park. We had a soccer ball. We decided to draw in the white sections, personalizing it. Chris decided to name the people who had Sunday and Mondays off the "Sunday Monday Bonanza Crew". Original I know. But halfway through Sunday he realized he missed the N. And then he proceeded to miss spell Bonanza. So in the end, we were named the Suday Monday Bozana Crew. As we should have been.
4) Nomihodai in Japanese means all you can drink. And we did. Drink. At Yoro's it cost 1100 yen for 2 hours. CHEAP! But the day that Nat and I ordered a second nomihodai, and made all the drinks doubles was the day I saw fear in the poor servers eyes. Another nomihodai. And they are women!
5) Fuji. A wise man climbs it once, a fool climbs it twice. Or how about a person who gets altitude sickness? Not a good idea. It got to the point were standing hurt. So my friends went on and I sank down next to a vending machine. Yes, a vending machine on Fuji. They seriously are EVERYWHERE in Japan. The man from the rest hut came out and asked if I was ok. Seriously, if I was okay would I be next to this vending machine? No, I would be at the top where everyone else is. Then I fell asleep and when I woke, pulling my face off the side of the vending machine, the sun had risen. The sunrise had been the whole reason for climbing at night. But if anyone asks, I did climb Fuji-san.
6) I went to DisneySea 3 times, Disneyland 1 time and Universal Studios Japan 1 time. Yes, 5 times in 2 years. And I don't really like theme parks that much. But the best was at Disneyland where me and Sandy dressed up like pirates and looked scarier in the photo than the pirate between us. Arrrrgh.
7) Soaking naked in a hot spring with strangers? Singing loudly into a mike during karaoke? This is not the me who went to Japan but this is the me who has come home. Growth comes in strange packages.
8) It never failed where we went. The waitress would always speak to me and Laura would always answer. And then the waitress would address the question to me. Because apparently tiny white women are scary.
9) "Kosuke, do you like strawberries?" Blank look. "Kosuke, do you like strawberries?" Blank look. "Kosuke, are you okay?" To which I got the reply "Mama mia!" Apparently I teach Italians.
10) I had to do a demo lesson for the sales staff. Just picture in your mind, Japanese men in business suits, flying around an office like they are airplanes. My job was so fun some days.
There are so many things to look back at and smile. I couldn't posssible write them all. But they will be what gets me through the rough times. I'm so glad I left Japan on a high. You want to remember the good times. And I do. I do.
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